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25 More Tips for Less Stress

Monday, October 25th, 2010

Last year right before the holidays I gave you 25 stress-busting tips from a list I like to read over when I need a boost.

Here we are again, ready to enter the holiday fray. Can you believe Monday is 1 November?!? So, I am pulling out that list to share another 25 tips. My suggestion: Print both lists. Read each morning as a reminder that you can choose constructive behaviors.

25 MORE Tips for Less Stress:

  1. Let go of what is lost.
  2. Encourage gentleness in yourself and others.
  3. Face life with dignity.
  4. Go more frequently where you will get what is good for you.
  5. Listen to the sound of your own voice.
  6. Redecorate some part of your home.
  7. Face painful questions carefully.
  8. Get a medical check up.
  9. Wear comfortable clothes whenever you possibly can.
  10. Get a massage.
  11. Avoid excessive noise.
  12. Engage in religious activity.
  13. Redefine your priorities.
  14. Stop letting people annoy you because they are unhappy.
  15. Start today to straighten out a problem in your life.
  16. Practice being alert to your surroundings.
  17. Exercise regularly.
  18. Stop waiting “until ____ ” and marking time.
  19. Set goals realistically.
  20. Learn to value feedback from others.
  21. Stop reflecting on things that didn’t work out.
  22. Write a journal of your daily thoughts and moods.
  23. Stop assuming others can’t get along without you.
  24. Think positively!
  25. Look in the mirror and smile.

Be sure to leave a comment with the tip that stuck out for you. You will be encouraging someone else!

Photo Credit: Flickr/Frerieke CC-A

Organizing Your Dream Bedroom

Friday, February 12th, 2010

Your bedroom is a cluttered jumble. Whatever you had in mind when you put furniture in there, what you have now is not it!

Perhaps you want a room that soothes frayed nerves and gets you ready to snooze. Maybe like my husband, you need a man-cave where you can watch football while you work on finances. Or you just want a pretty retreat that pleases your eyes and makes you feel beautifully feminine.

Why not start now? Follow these steps to customize your room to your personal taste.

  1. Take time to dream!
    Close your eyes. Pretend you are Jeannie in the bottle and you can blink your eyes to make your dream come to life. What would your new bedroom look like? Make your vision in Technicolor. Put your favorite colors on display. Will you want candles burning; what scent can you smell? You can feel the comforter, the rug, the throw on your chair. Are they silky, cool cotton, or faux fur? Is there music playing in the background? Do you have water next to you on a nightstand?
  2. Plan activity zones
    Now that you know the feel and overall purpose, of your bedroom, you are ready to make some practical decisions. What activities will you invite into your room? Make this a conscious choice. You are the designer, the manager of this “hotel” room. Whatever you say goes. Where is your dressing area going to be? Do you want to do any writing, reading, or paperwork here? Will a television help or hinder your purpose? What about music?
  3. Decide on furnishings / storage
    Can you see how these choices will then translate into furnishings and storage? If sleeping is your main activity, what size bed do you want? Will you have a chair, bookcase, and ottoman for a reading area? Do you want a media center? Will your clothes be stored here in a dresser or armoire?
  4. Finalize a floor plan
    Measure your bedroom. Know what furnishings and/or storage will enable you to live your dream. (Hint: Less furniture translates into more free space that feels expansive. Keep is simple!) Use graph paper or an online design program to rearrange until you find a workable floor plan. Two online design programs you can use are SeeMyDesign.com and the icovia® Space Planner.

Are you finding that having a goal that excites you and has such positive benefits is a wonderfully motivating force? Are you are finally ready to clear out all the “stuff” that got dumped there because you didn’t know what else to do with it or company was coming?

  • Take action to clear the clutter. Learn how to take action in my three-part series.  Also, don’t forget to register to receive my free “60 Tips to Organize Your Life.” and how to use the L.I.F.E. method.
  • Use decorative containers that enhance your desired look and feel. Perhaps double purpose furnishings can add useful storage as in storage ottomans, a headboard with shelves, sidetables with 2-3 drawers.
  • Add colorful accents, accessories, drapes, cushions to complete your vision for your new space.

You can make your bedroom line up with your personality, your goals and needs. After all, you will be the beneficiary of this labor of love. As the L’Oreal commercials say, “You are worth it!”

Free From Life Clutter! Throw Out 50 Things – Book Review

Wednesday, January 6th, 2010
Available at Amazon, $20

Available at Amazon, $20

Do you wonder if you can ever streamline, but are afraid to throw out something that is important? Life coach Gail Blanke’s book Throw Out FIFTY Things might be just the thing you need for that extra push!

This book is not only about clearing out physical clutter, as freeing as that is. Once you take the first steps of tackling drawers and shelves that are holding debris from actions and attitudes long past, you are pumped up to do the real work of pitching the emotional baggage that is weighing you down. Gail’s vision is “to empower men and women to live truly exceptional lives.”

What is your “life plaque”? What is holding you back from, as the Army puts it, being all that you can be? This book is a great motivator to just get started!

Ricky Scaggs Sings About a Simple Life

Monday, December 14th, 2009

Life used to be simpler, didn’t it? Or are we only remembering from a child’s much simpler viewpoint?

Do you remember walking through fields and scaring up huge juicy grasshoppers that spit “tobacco” on your hands when you caught them?

Do you remember decorating your bike with streamers to ride it in the 4th of July parade?

Do you remember listening for the ice cream man and running like mad to get money before he passed your house?

Do you remember playing “hide n’ seek” in the twilight relishing those last few minutes before the street lights came on and you would be called home?

Do you remember the smell of burning leaves in the fall before that was banned for cleaner air?

Do you remember who was the perfect light stringer, ornament hanger, or tinsel spreader when you put up a Christmas tree?

Do you remember banging on pots and pans when the clock struck twelve, to ring in the New Year?

What are the sights, smells, and sounds that trigger that memory of simpler times for you?

Watch for the airstream on the beach and smile with me, remembering your simple life.

YouTube video by beanscott, October 1, 2007.    “Song by Ricky Skaggs. I loved this song because it so reminded me of the kind of life my dad has lived, one of simple devotion to God, as well as his family.”

25 Tips for Less Stress

Wednesday, November 25th, 2009

Stress happens.  Sometimes there is no way to avoid it.  Other times we create it ourselves with overloaded schedules, ridiculously high expectations, and the defeating self-talk we listen to.

This list is from  a tattered piece of paper entitled 101 Strategies for Coping with Stress that I keep stuck in my Bible. I can’t give credit to anyone for these tips since I can’t remember who gave it to me, and there is no reference given on the sheet.

Please read these out loud, speaking to yourself alone (hopefully no one is around to see you talking to yourself again!) I hope these tips will lift you up and remind you that you have the power to choose…

  1. Remember you have the gift of memory for pleasant times.
  2. Enjoy nature… the wonders in your yard, the sky, the sea, the desert, the mountains, everything.
  3. Start sharing responsibilities.
  4. Listen to people…really listen.
  5. Compromise occasionally and you may really be the winner.
  6. Stop being always available for running errands.
  7. Sing.
  8. Dance.
  9. Take some time off.
  10. Be honest about how you feel.
  11. Begin living now.
  12. Stop living in the future/past.
  13. List your successes.
  14. Make friends with people who like themselves.
  15. Learn to accept what you cannot change.
  16. Let other people run their own lives.
  17. Develop your personal talents.
  18. Give yourself permission to be afraid of failure and success.
  19. Stop feeling sorry for yourself.
  20. Get enough rest.
  21. Stop looking for someone or something to blame.
  22. Analyze problems, figure out what can be done, then take action immediately.
  23. Talk about your strengths…to yourself.
  24. Control food input; eat nutritionally.
  25. Ask for help in a straightforward way.

I especially need these reminders around the holidays. One last exhortation from me: Be kind to yourself.

Go Blue Jackets! Never give up.

Wednesday, November 4th, 2009
Columbus BlueJackets

Columbus BlueJackets

Tonight my husband and I will walk across the street to Nationwide Arena to watch the hockey game – Blue Jackets vs San Jose Sharks. What a fun thing to do on a dreary and cold Wednesday evening!  We will enjoy watching Mark Methot, our neighbor from across the hall, have another great game.

We met Mark last year at a condo mixer honoring our hockey player neighbors.  He is a humble, respectful young man and very easy to talk to.  When Jeff and I first saw the players coming back after the summer, my husband commented that Mark had bulked up from the lean, mean player of last year.

Mark started on third line. He broke out and scored goals in the first few games and moved up to second line.  The Dispatch called him, “… A physical specimen who isn’t afraid to fight.” We saw Mark’s scrappy determination against Pittsburg in an altercation in front of our goal.  The Blue Jackets lost that game in a face off.   Jeff congratulated Mark on his perseverence and pluck a few days later, and was told, “You will see more of that.”

These are the characteristics I’ve seen in Mark that I want to emulate:

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The Odd Couple: Do You Resemble Felix or Oscar?

Wednesday, October 7th, 2009

When two people share a living space, there will inevitably be one who values order and neat surroundings more than the other.  The play-turned-sit-com, The Odd Couple, made us laugh at the extreme case of roommates having to adjust to each other’s idiosyncrasies.

Who do you relate to more:  Felix the neat fanatic or Oscar the easygoing slob?  Each character had his strengths and weaknesses.  Oscar could more readily enjoy life and relate to people.  On the other hand, Felix was uber-responsible and made sure that Oscar did not starve or drown in his trash.

Felix was never able to get Oscar to pick up after himself.  Oscar couldn’t convince Felix to get over his cleanliness fetish enough to make room for the humanity and imperfections of others.  Yet, in each episode one partner grew a little by learning from the other.

Often I hear the question, “How can you motivate someone else to get organized?” The two-word answer is a resounding, “YOU can’t!”

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